Wednesday, August 04, 2010

night weaning & sleep training for hadzim

why i need to do sleep training & night weaning for hadzim?
- night weaning --> seriously, i need to take a break for myself. hadzim mengempeng for the whole night (since he was 9 months old i think) & i can't move my body at all. every time i un-latched him, dia akan tersedar & merengek. aduh. tak boleh tahan laa .. sangat susah especially tetiba rasa nak ke toilet di tengah-tengah malam, ataupon nak bangun seawal 5pagi di hari isnin bile nak hantar hafdzuan balik ke Intan. badan pon terasa sakit kadang-kadang sebab terpaksa mengiring sepanjang malam.
- sleep training --> walaupon tidak ada tercatat di mana-mana, i do think 1 year old baby must have straight 9 hours sleep. 1 year old - right time to sleep training for a toddler.



why now?
- sebenarnya target nak buat lepas hafdzuan back from his course (end of Sept, lepas raya). at least sekarang ni masih ada teman tidur lagi. tak la tidur sorang-sorang di katil king size tu. but i changed my mind, kene buat sekarang. next week dah start puasa. kalau time puasa pon macam ni, habis laa sahur i. mana nak layan hadzim lagi, mana nak sahur lagi. at the end of time, i yang tak cukup tidur & letih nanti.
- gedik tak sabar nak suruh hadzim tido kat katil baru dia itewww. hihihihi.


how do i start night weaning for hadzim?
- keep distance from me -->percubaan menidurkan hadzim dekat tilam next to my bed is totally failed. sebab dia tau, tu bau bilik dia yg dia biasa tidur. kalau dah transfer ke tilam bawah pon, malam-malam dia terjaga, tepuk-tepuk dia mmg tak akan jalan (walaupon hafdzuan yg tepuk, bukan i). tetap mahu ngempeng. at last bawak naik atas katil jugak. so as a first step, hadzim must sleep out from my bedroom.
- place him at new area --> bile hadzim dah tidur, i transferkan dia to his own bed at his own room. to make him to get use with the new environment. my mom willing to sleep to the next bed (in the same room) untuk memantau dia for these few days. lepas ni maybe dah boleh tidur sendiri dah.
- change his meal time & his milk--> dulu hadzim bf sblm tido. body milk mmg cepat digest, so baby akan cepat lapar (that's explained why fm baby could sleep straight for 9 hours). so i tukar meal time dia. i tak bf dia sblm makan (to make him hungry), jadi dia akan makan banyak around 7-8pm. at 9.30pm hadzim will have his fm. dia akan tido lama sikit sebab kekenyangan.




my sleeping boy on his sleep training, at his very own bed, own room.


results:
as for now, it has been a week hadzim on his sleeps training.
the first 3 days; dekat sploh kali dia terbangun tgh malam mencari candu, but my mom cuma cakap "syuhh, syuhhh, tidur" dan hadzim akan tido balik. kadang2 tu kalau tak jalan kene la my mom bangun & tepuk-tepuk dia.
day 4-6; hadzim bangun around 3,4 times. my mom tak payah tepuk dia lagi cuma cakap dari jauh "syuhhh, syuhh, tidur tidur".
last night; hadzim bangun sekali sahaja & cara yang sama my mom guna.
and it works well on him.

tapi pagi tu mesti terus bf dia, he looks very hungry. sampai kosong terus tangki susu :P.
hope by puasa nanti hadzim will have straight 9 hours sleep, until the next morning.



hadzim yang tido ganas, terpaksa letak comforter kat bawah katil sebab dia bole bergolek sampai ke bawah katil. then landing baek punye atas comforter tapi tak terjaga, elok je sambung tido. hehe. so cute.


effect to myself?
i have to admit, i miss having him under my armpit!!! huwaaaa.
tiada lagi bau baby yang masham yang enak dan lazat iteww di pagi hari.
tiada lagi tukang landing atas dada i malam2 sambil menyelak baju i.
tiada lagi tukang sepak kepala i masa i tengah tidur.
i miss them. a lot :(

pagi-pagi i bangun terus ke bilik hadzim. terasa sayu tengok dia tido sorang-sorang. terasa nak angkut dia tido balik dalam bilik i.
tapi kalau dari sekarang tak mula buat, bile lagi? takkan dah anak 2 semua nak berhimpit tido sekatil dengan parents? no way. they must start being independent from now on.


anyway, im glad sebab i dah start buat sleep training for hadzim. but to take him away from bf, yes i am not ready yet!! dan tak tahu bila akan ready. mesti lagi emosi gile bile dah tak bf lg. *sob*sob*sob*

and now? i need to sleep training for myself pulak. for the whole 1 year, not even once i have myself a straight 8 hours sleep, asyik terbangun sebab nak menyusu anak. sekarang ni masalah i, macam mana i nak tidur straight tanpa terbangun pulak? ngeeee.

15 comments:

Miss Lili@ said...

agree dengan ko part 'effect to myself?'... i think particularly i'm gonna miss moment of waking up at any point in time throughout the night or in the morning, and kiss him on the cheeks and lips sambil sedut bau baby.. tsk.

aku & kerol skang tengah nak train khayr tdo in his playpen, but in the same room with us. lepas ni dah furnish the other rooms then bleh la start letting khayr to sleep in a separate room. tsk.

oh ye, lagi satu agree with you.. macam pelik tdo the whole night without waking up... huhu.. am gonna experience that this friday.. ada group trip.. so akan tdo without khayr for one night.. isk... sedihhhhhh.

ak yuyunz said...

sedihnya..

kak yun hrpn jek besar nk tdo separate with adre tp hati FINK ni sedih plak.. tp bila pk u r right la xkn nk tdo berimpit² mcm sardin dlm 1 bilik plak..

ohh sedihnya lagik..

CuppyCakeMommy said...

congrates u dah berjaya..i ?lom start pun lagi..
i agreed on this
"tiada lagi tukang landing atas dada i malam2 sambil menyelak baju i"

zie said...

wah..so fast. I am still teaching my soon to be 2 doter to sleep on her own.

I guess, masalah ruang aje la nie sebab takde bilik yang sesuai utk die.

Will apply your method nie once we moved.

By the way, bab tido for ourselves nie - 8 hours in fact a luxury, kan?

FrH said...

lia - yeah lia aku pon rindu part tu. tp hati kene kental la haha. good for u dah nak start ajar khayr tido dlm his playpen at this age. senang nnt dia besar tak carik ketiak jek :P. yeah lia tu lg 1 rasa pelik sbb dpt tido straight haha, tp tido tanpa dpt melihat muka anak adalah sgt menyedihkan .. huwaaaa. aku pn xsanggup!! :(

kak yun - mmg sedih tp rasanya dah tiba masanya. bile dah sedih jadik kene la produce yg baru kan utk occupy tempat yg kosong hihihi (speaking of urself, bukan myself aaaaaa hehe).

siti - hahaha that is sooo true kan? so cute. owhh i miss that part too :( tp nasib baik i balik keje dia still selak baju i :P

zie - good luck! im just giving some ideas that works on me, maybe will works on your children too hehe. oh yeah, sgt luxury. terasa mcm belum kawen plak (sbb bangun pagi skrg husband xde) hihihi.

Mrs Z said...

Well done FrH. Bagus you start Hadzim training tidur sorang2 dari kecik. Kalau dah besar, susah nak training. The methods that you use to train him makes it seem easy. Kalaulah ditakdirkan I ada baby lagi, I akan try adopt your method. :D

p!nkerton said...

wah baguslah dah berjaya! good for you & for hadzim too :)
so far athirah mmg i ajar tido dlm babycot sendiri (tapi still in the same room la). alhmdulillah elok je dia tido straight sampai pagi (i think since dia 5-6mths kot) mmg tak bangun2, dlm sebulan ada la sekali dua aje.
ni baby cot dah sempit, i plan nk beli kan katil. (tapi takleh lawan katil kereta hadzim laaa ;p)

FrH said...

Mrs Z - tq :) yeah, sbb tu try buat skrg sblm dia jd baby tua hehe. InsyaAllah boleh try for ur future baby (amin!!).

fateh - yeahhh, tq :) yeke, u lg bagus dr awal lg dah train athirah. hadzim mmg xbleh tido sebilik dgn i la, dia mcm tau jek i ada (ke i yg malas dgr dia nangis so terus sumbat candu hehe). hahaha athirah pakai katil princess laa pulak!! :)

ashra said...

aku dulu pun sama fara..sampai 9 bulan.jap jap bgn.ngempeng..sejam dua terjaga.macam baby umo 1-2 bulan..serius.1-2 jam tau!

wpun aku tak keje,adakalanya aku letih gak,nak2 bila tggu epoh balik keje malam,nak makan sama,duk borak2 lewat mlm,tgk tv sesama,jap jap,aku terkejar2 nak nyusukan si aleesya ni.hehe..kdg aku br nak lelap,die da jaga.

start 10 bulan,aku guna ferber method.berjaya gak.dapatlah die bertahan 5-6 jam hingga skang..lega sket malam2 aku.tp,mmg btul pun teori fm,bf ko tu.aku pun sama..nak bg die tido lama,mmg bagi fm tuk tido.style aku skang,minum sebelum masuk bilik.masuk bilik,gelapkan bilik,die terguling2 lelap sendiri.tapi,aku ada sebelah la..
kdg layan ar dulu borak,sblm die lelap.so,die mmg tak lekat dgn botol/breast tuk tido mlm.

tapi,kira hadzim berjaya la 9 jam..aleesya aku pernah push tuk 6 jam ke atas.die tak thn.die le bertahan 5-6jam je.nanges sungguh2 wpun aku,epoh tepuk2 tuk push lagi lama.
tak pe la..asalkan tak 1-2 jam cam baby lagi kira ok la..5-6 jam aku dapat tu pun sgtla bersyukur compare dulu 1-2 jam umo da 9 bulan.
hehe..
btw,kalu aleesya terjaga,sgt la tidak boleh tak nmpk muka aku.tak nk die, wpun epoh sebelah tepuk2kan..
aku nak terkucil mlm2,da mcm pencuri..senyap2 buka toilet semua.keke.
aleesya die nak muka aku sebelah bila terjaga,baru die smbg tido balik..tak kira la tido mlm ke,tido siang ke..hehe.ni la jadinya,24/7 dgn aku je..hehe

FrH said...

ashra - yelaa ashra aku pn xtahan laa ngempeng .. huhu. ferber method tu apa? xpernah dgr pon .. kene google ni. tp hadzim aku try bg dia fm pon dia still nk ngempeng, sebabnya dia tido dgn aku. tu yg aku kene pisahkan tidur tu .. owhh ye ke .. hadzim ok la, sampai pagi terus boleh bertahan. tu pon sbb dia mmg dah biasa bangun pkl 6.30 - 7am. hehe housewife mmg mcm tu, anak mmg melekat 24/7.. hehe.

AngelbAbeS said...

uit..ko xsedey ke?mmg hubby aku ade tanye gak bile nk ajar baby tdo asing tp aku xleh la...sedeyyyy~~~~~~~~~~~~~

FrH said...

tini - sedih la. tp have to laa. mental kene kuat. hehe.

Diyana said...

aku blum ready nak berpisah tempat tido dgn anak2.huwaa

FrH said...

donat - hahaha. terpulanglah pada masing2 .. aku dah ready :)

Psyche said...

cool! we are still looking for the right bed for LA. Bertambah haru bila suami kata, ala...hujung tahun la baru pindahkan dia bilik dia sendiri. Ada keeee???